Antoinette + Rochester = Catastrophe

There has been lots of class discussion about Rochester and Antoinette's relationship. Has Rochester ever loved Antoinette and could he ever love her? Could their relationship have ever been a healthy one?

I think that their relationship was never, and never could have been, true love. And, I think most of the blame for this falls on Rochester's shoulders.

Yes, I understand that Rochester comes from a frivolous English background and he expects everything to go his way because that's how he's been brought up, but this isn't a good enough defense for his actions in the book. 

First of all, Rochester is driven by his selfishness. He comes to the island for the sole purpose of getting a girl and a fortune--and he finds that in Antoinette. Right from the beginning Rochester doesn't love Antoinette but instead decides to lead her on by pretending that he cares for her so that she will marry him. When Antoinette tries to back out of the wedding, Rochester promises her safety and peace if they got married, but these are lies that he tells so that she will go through with the wedding (78-79). Why is he so concerned about her backing out of the wedding? Because he doesn't want to look like a poor fool to his friends back in England. 

Rochester also never respected Antoinette. He calls her other names like "Bertha" and doesn't really try to understand Antoinette. He just judges her through his narrow English worldview, and is annoyed when she doesn't act English enough. 

Finally, the way he responds to Christophine's ranting also makes me think that he never really loved Antoinette. After Christophine remarks about Rochester fooling Antoinette into thinking he loved her so that he could get the money, Rochester says "It was like that, I thought. It was like that. But better to say nothing. Then surely they'll both go and it will be my turn to sleep [...]" (152). Here Rochester is actually admitting that he never loved Antoinette. 

Rochester never actually cared if the relationship worked out in the first place. He just wanted his money and a wife, he didn't want any emotional attachment that came with it. I have little sympathy for such a character who uses others to get what he wants, and then blames his problems on others. Rochester has little excuse to blame his problems on Antoinette. It was his choice to travel to the islands, his choice to marry Antoinette, and his choice to neglect their relationship. Rochester is not a victim in this story, Antoinette is. 

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Frazz Comic from 10/31/13

Kafka's The Metamorphosis started out kind of funny, actually, but then as the book went on I just wanted to slam my head against the desk in agony. 

I remember reading the first bit that we were assigned to read, and I was certain that this book was going to be hilarious. The beginning was funny. This guy wakes up a bug and all he can think about is his work? I kept imagining him waking up and crossing his little bug arms in sudden frustration as he says to himself  "Huh, that's weird. But how am I supposed to get to work today?" Trying to explain why I found this funny is hard because when I do explain what I find funny, people look at me and go "what kind of sick person are you?! This man just tragically turned into a bug and you're laughing?"

Those who criticized my chuckles at the first few pages will be pleased to know that as the book went on I found it less humorous and more painful. The story of Gregor being rejected from the family, and gradually losing all connections to humanity, was rather sad and tragic to read. Reading it from Gregor's perspective I yearned for some of the other characters to somehow make him feel less lonely, but I also understood that it is difficult to socialize with a bug. 

I hadn't ever read this book before and I wasn't sure what to expect. I kept waiting for Gregor to return to his human self, but he never did. It's like how the Frazz comic puts it--Gregor couldn't get out of his bug body. I think that this small bit of hope for a happy ending is what made me keep turning the pages. I wanted a happy ending with Disney-esk morals that the main character learns after a hard life as a bug. Sadly, the true love's transforming kiss never came for Gregor.

In the end though, I'm almost glad that Gregor died. It makes for a more interesting book, maybe not a more satisfying ending, but interesting in the fact that it makes you think more about what you read. You discover that Gregor wasn't the only one who went through a transformation, but everyone else in the family did too. His sister grew up, his dad got a job, and they finally got the courage to move out and start over. So was his death really a bad thing in the end?